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Welcome to today's Zoom call with um, and live broadcast from Power UpYourHouse.com. My name is Jinger Cloward, and I am super excited to be here today, and especially with this topic because this is something that I love. I am a mother, and today we're talking about the kiddo boost. We are gonna give some tips and tricks, one tip, one trick, actually, that you can do—actually, one tip with multiple tricks—on things you can do to help your relationships with your children and to better understand them, so that you as a mother can feel a little bit more empowered in your situation. And so today, before we get started, just a brief introduction.

Like I said, my name is Jinger Cloward, and I have been a mother for almost 20 years now, and I have loved it. Not necessarily every moment, not necessarily every day, but the overall experience. I actually have just loved being a mother. I think from a really young age, I learned the importance of a mother, and that really anchored me into knowing that this is what I wanted to do, to intentionally be a mother. And because I have intentionally been a mother, I've had some great experiences. And as I have been a mother throughout the years, I have seen that there are some trends in society, that mothering is something that, while there used to be a huge community of mothers that were excited about being mother and were at home with their children, that is actually becoming quite rare. And so a lot of moms, especially as I became a little bit older, they would ask me for tips and tricks and ways to help their mothering, so that it could be a more enjoyable experience, because a lot of times women will jump into being a mother, and then they're kind of lost. And unfortunately, society doesn't necessarily feed them like it used to, doesn't feed us moms like it used to, in that it's the majority of people making this choice, and motherhood is a form of art, and it is something that is a skill, and it is something that doesn't necessarily—all things in mothering come naturally. And so it is nice to have a place that you can go, or places you can go, for tips and tricks and a community, and that is what we have here, that is what I'm hoping to offer you, so that if you are finding that motherhood is challenging, because it is and it can be, that you can get some tips and tricks so that it could be more enjoyable and ease your burden.

So each week on Mondays, from about 11 to about 11:45, and I say about because I am a mother that is very busy right now, and sometimes it starts a little earlier, sometimes it starts a little later, sometimes it goes for a little longer, it just depends on what we're talking about, um, and the questions that people have. And it goes from about 11 to 11:45, and it runs Mondays, um, every Monday, but it changes on what we talk about. And today we are talking about kiddos and all things kiddos, and kind of broken it down to things that I have seen really can trip moms and things that can really help moms. So last week, we actually talked about the child development stages and phases of children and how important it is to skill yourself as a mother with that knowledge so that you can see your children where they are. We also talked about how important it is as a mom to have the lenses or a lens of that her child looks through, because when you can see life like your child and meet them where they are, you're going to have a much better experience with your children. And being a mom is about working with children. It really is. I cannot speak to being just a dog mom, because I have a dog, and I do treat her like part of the family, but this specific thing when I'm talking about mothering, I'm talking about mothering children. And because of that, knowing more about our children helps us do our fulfill the mission that we have stepped into.

So today we're going to be talking about something a little bit different, and it is kind of a touchy subject with moms. And, you know, this really could kind of fit into the mother like power boosting, the mom, and it can also be a soul boost, but I actually am putting it in the kiddo boost. And I did that for a reason. Today, let me just share my screen really quick. Today, we're actually going to be talking about, let me pull it up really quick, round one. We're gonna be talking about your home being your best tool. Okay, now, I don't know if you've ever thought about this before, but when you think of your home as your best tool, how does that make you feel? You know, a lot of times as moms, we're running to the store, we're buying this for our kids, we're going to that activity, we're, you know, making sure we have this, we're going to the park, we're doing all these things, but we don't stop to think, 'What do I have right here?' 'How can I use what I already have to boost my relationship with my children?' And that is what I want to talk to you about today. I want to give you a tip that I have used multiple tricks to actually empower your home and to make it work for you.

So here's the tip: your home can be your best tool, and if you don't believe me, let me just take you back in time to when I was a child. My mother, bless her heart, she worked really hard. She had six kids, and she was a single mom, and she actually was a teacher at school, and then she would come home and she would be a teacher in our home. And I remember sitting on the couch, and she would actually teach us things at home. We had this little nook area. I remember our home very clearly. We had this little nook area that had a couch and a little table, and it was by the window, and we had a little area that was just dedicated to our school work. And I remember sitting there with my mom, and she would teach us multiplication and division, and I thought it was so cool because my mom was doing it, and I love my mom. And so because my mom was teaching us, it wasn't just like, 'Oh, here's a book, learn this,' it was like, 'Oh, my mom is teaching us,' and I felt so special, and I felt like I could do anything. And because of that, my mom empowered me to learn, and she didn't just empower me to learn, she empowered me to learn at home. And because of that, I had this love for learning. Now, I didn't love every subject, and I still don't love every subject. I don't know if anybody does. But I had a love for learning because of my mom, and my mom knew that by teaching me at home, she could use our home as a tool to empower me to learn. And because of that, I have done the same thing with my children.

And so as I've learned and as I've grown and as I've been a mother for almost 20 years now, and I've watched my children, and I've seen their different learning styles and their different personalities, I have come up with some tricks that can help you, tricks that can help me, that can help other mothers, and I just want to share one of those with you today. So let me just pull up the thing I want to talk to you about.

Okay. So what I want to talk to you about today is creating zones in your home. Now, I don't know if you've ever thought about creating zones in your home, but I have found this to be an extremely effective tool, and it has really empowered my children, and I know that it could empower you as well. And so when I talk about creating zones in your home, what I mean is actually dedicating an area of your home to something. Now, I know that you may be thinking, 'Oh, I've got a playroom,' or 'I've got a bedroom,' but I actually want you to take it a step further. I want you to think about what it is that your child needs, and how you can meet that need with the area of your home. And so let me just pull up a little example.

Okay. So in our home, um, we have, I have a son, and he is very athletic, and he is very social. And so in our home, I have actually created a sports zone. Now, this doesn't mean that we have a big gym in our home, it doesn't mean that we have a big, you know, basketball court or anything like that, it just means that we have dedicated an area of our home to sports. And so I have a little area in our basement that is kind of a workout area, and I have a little basket of balls, and I have a little area where my son can, you know, play ball, he can do some push-ups, he can do some sit-ups, and it's his area. And because it's his area, it's something that he takes ownership of, and it's something that he is excited about. And because he's excited about it, he actually will go down there and use it. Now, I know that's kind of crazy, because sometimes kids don't want to do things that are good for them, but because it's his area, he will go down there and use it. And because he's down there using it, he's actually becoming more athletic, and he's actually becoming more social, because I have found that when his friends come over, they will actually go down and play with him. And so it's created this little social hub for my son, where he can go and he can work out, and he can have fun, and he can be with his friends, and it's all in the safety of our home.

And so when I talk about creating zones in your home, what I want you to think about is what it is that your child needs, and how you can meet that need with the area of your home. Now, I know that some of you may be thinking, 'Oh, I don't have a basement,' or 'I don't have an extra room,' or 'I don't have this,' or 'I don't have that,' but I want you to remember that you don't need a big space to create a zone. You can actually just use a little corner of your living room, or a little corner of your bedroom, or even a little corner of your kitchen. And I have found that by creating zones in your home, it actually empowers your child to take ownership of that area, and it empowers your child to want to use that area, and it empowers your child to actually become more independent, because they know that that is their area, and they know that that is their space, and they know that they can go there and they can do what they need to do. And so it's actually been a really effective tool in our home, and I know that it can be a really effective tool in your home as well.

And so I just want to encourage you to think about creating zones in your home, and to think about what it is that your child needs, and how you can meet that need with the area of your home. And I know that it can be a little bit overwhelming at first, but I promise you that it is worth it, and I promise you that it will make a difference in your child's life, and I promise you that it will make a difference in your life as well. And so I just want to encourage you to think about creating zones in your home, and to think about how you can use your home as your best tool, because I promise you that it is worth it, and I promise you that it will make a difference in your life, and I promise you that it will make a difference in your child's life as well. So thank you so much for listening, and I hope that you have a great day.

I've come to view my home a little differently. A home is like a toolbox—it's a window to the soul. It's one of those cool features where you can utilize it to shape and nurture children. Let me find the name of the book I'm referencing, and I'll share it later.

Anyway, let's talk about having tools in your home or your home as a toolbox for raising children. It's a place where you can teach and guide them, even through seemingly mundane things like making their beds.

Every home I've lived in has been different in layout, size, and storage. As a mom, it's been an interesting journey. Most women I talk to can relate. When your home serves as a toolbox, it means things are accessible, and sometimes others may misjudge your intentions as a mother because of it, especially if things are out in the open on the main floor.

But for me, the main level of my home is one of my favorite places because it's where everything happens—the kitchen, family room, entryway, etc. It's where I spend most of my time. When people visit, they step into my world, my toolbox for raising children. And if they can't see that well, tough luck!

It's crucial to defend your toolbox, especially against relatives who may project their own ideals onto your home. Having a toolbox mindset makes it easier to stand your ground. For example, I recall a recent encounter when a mom visited and saw my busy main floor. I wasn't apologizing for the mess—I was explaining it. This mindset shift took me some time to adopt, but it's empowering once you embrace it.

I spend a lot of time in the kitchen, and that's where I let my kids explore. Instead of fancy toys, they loved playing with kitchen tools, fostering their curiosity and motor skills. I've also learned to rotate toys and keep them accessible on the main floor, using baskets and bins for easy cleanup.

Each mother has her own way of organizing her home. Some prefer meticulous labeling, while others, like me, opt for simplicity with big bins. It's all about finding what works for you and your kids.

Now, let's talk about the laundry room. It's often chaotic, but it's a perfect place to teach responsibility and ownership to kids. My laundry room may not always be spotless, but it reflects my philosophy of allowing kids some latitude in their development.

I remember a training session where rooms were compared to aspects of our lives. The laundry room, for instance, represents how the world sees my kids. It's messy because life is messy, and that's okay.

Teaching kids to do their laundry not only lightens the load for me but also instills valuable life skills in them. It's about finding that balance between structure and flexibility.

In the end, our homes are more than just pretty spaces—they're tools for shaping and nurturing our children. Embracing this mindset can transform motherhood into a purposeful journey filled with teaching, learning, and growth.

If you need help navigating this journey, feel free to reach out. Together, we can turn your home into the ultimate toolbox for raising happy, healthy kids. Stay tuned for our upcoming discussions on nutrition and date night tips!

Remember, moms, you've got this. You're not alone, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.


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