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Awesome, okay, I think we are ready to start. It always takes me a little bit to kind of figure out the technology part, but I think we’re ready to go. Welcome to this week’s Power Up Your House. I am Ginger Cloward, I am the founder and co-founder of Power Up Your House. Today, we are doing a Mom Boost, and this is one of my favorite things to talk about because this took me a little bit to figure out, and it was a game-changer. So, I’m super excited to be here with you today, and we are talking about balance.

Now, before you, as a mom, run off and be like, “No, I don’t have it, it doesn’t exist, it doesn’t work for me, I’ve tried it, it just makes me feel even more out of balance,” I just want you to know that that is actually pretty normal. As moms are finding balance, it is really common to feel like you are out of balance because you’re adjusting and shifting. The challenge is, if you can’t actually tap into a good flow of balance or you don’t understand the principles of balance, then it will leave you feeling like it’s impossible. And while it can be impossible, I’m also here to tell you that it actually can be possible because I’m living it, I do it, and I’ve done it for years, and I’ve helped other moms be able to achieve the same thing. So, I’m excited to talk about this principle with you today.

And really, what I wanted to call this was, “Don’t underestimate the power of a balanced life.” But as I was thinking about that, because honestly, there really is a lot of power in a balanced life, and there’s a little story on why I was going to go that direction, and I’ll get to that in a minute. But it can turn moms completely off from even listening because the experience of a lot of moms is that balance is something that they look for once to establish once so that it never changes. And that doesn’t work well for a mom in her life or in her home because life constantly changes. So if you try and establish balance once in a way that will never change, you will be sorely disappointed. But there is great power that comes from balance, and I think we innately know that. So we seek for balance, but then we get frustrated when we can’t figure it out. And it just creates this cycle where we just start eating chocolate or ding-dongs or whatever your thing is. Right? A lot of women, it’s chocolate because chocolate can give you a sense of well-being, actually, at a molecular structure. It totally can within our bodies. But it’s a false one, and it’s one that changes the balance of the body. And so that’s something that gets even more frustrating. It just seems to be the cycle that can be frustrated from up.

My goal today within the next 20 to 40 minutes is to help you understand the principles of balance and how I’m referring to balance and how it can be achieved. And then to give you a few areas to focus in to actually help you maintain that balance so that you can have a maintenance of balance as things are shifting and changing in your life. So, are you ready?

Hey, this is a little vulnerable for me because I remember in first grade, my—you get these little report cards back, right? And the teacher would always say, “She’s so social, she’s so fun, she needs to slow down in her work, her handwriting is horrible.” Basically, and writing on a whiteboard, so Mom, from you and me, this is not my strength, but it is something that is easier to see when you see it in a diagram. So, if you are like an aesthetic learner, just try and listen and visualize in your mind what it is that I’m attempting to draw. Because even my stick figures, my daughter at a really young age was trying to fix.

Okay, we are going to be talking about balance. Balance, B-A-L-A-N-C-E, balance, balance, balance, okay? Balance can be a noun, balance can be a verb, and there is a difference. Balance can be a thing, balance can be an action or something that we are striving—it’s an action, right? I’m going to be talking a little bit about both, and that’ll make sense as we get going. But first, I need to tell you a little bit of a story.

When I was a first-time mom with baby number one, I remember really wanting to get good at things that I had never seen before. I had never seen a mom nurse. That’s actually not true. My sister had pulled me aside right before I had my baby, and she’s like, “Hey, this was tricky for me, let me show you,” and she kind of walked me through the process. But for as far as growing up with a nursing mom, I was the youngest, I never saw that. I wanted to get good at that. I wanted to be able to approach it with some experience, even though you can’t really have experience, at least a visual experience before I got started. When I went to a little prenatal class, they were talking about nursing. And then they talked about something that really wasn’t on my radar, and it was actually postpartum depression.

And there were all these warnings, and I was like this happy new mom that I was like, “I’m not even familiar with what that was.” But there were a lot of warnings that it could happen to mothers. But again, I didn’t even really know what it was. It was just something that could happen to moms as their hormones were adjusting. And I remember it made me kind of nervous because I was already nervous to be a mom, and now I’ve got one more thing to be added onto my radar. And so I remember it was just kind of like from this prenatal class, life happens. I have my baby, I’m in the hospital, and they made me—this was 20 years ago—they made us watch all these videos. And at this particular hospital that I was at, it was really great. I think their intention was good, but it kind of threw me because there was a lot of warnings. You may experience this, you may experience this, you may experience this. But it didn’t talk about troubleshooting anything, and it didn’t talk about why I might experience those things. And so, I was kind of nervous. I was like, “Wait, is this just happening like that? That you feel out of balance, and you feel off, and you can’t control—what are these people talking about?”

Six weeks later, I have an appointment with my OB. And fortunately, I had a fabulous OB. I absolutely loved him. I don’t know that he’s practiced anymore, but he was fabulous. He was in his late 70s, had been around the block so many times. And I remember going in for my appointment, and he began this conversation. And it was kind of like this checklist of things that he was checking. So, “How’s the baby nursing? How is this? How is that?” And then he turned around, and he said, “How is Mom feeling emotionally?”

That they have to do, or for our family, we had health stuff that we had to change our meals. That was a huge bell curve for me. That was a huge, huge weight that I felt. That burden I had to share with my kids, and everybody had to experience that, and it felt really heavy. These things really can be heavy. Now what moms can inadvertently do is that they will try to take these stresses, right? They will just try to bear it. They will just try and go forward, not change anything, but they will expect that a positive attitude will fix or compensate this.

My experience has been that it helps, but it doesn’t fix. It helps, but it doesn’t buffer enough when the weight really starts adding in, especially if you have multiple children. So what I have found works is focusing on this, getting my bar to be a little bit more steel-like so that it can handle the weight and it can buffer the weight, right? It’s not just going to snap; it has the ability to bear the burden. Capacity is something that I can control; it is something that I can influence, it is something that I can continually adjust and work on. Which is why I say that balance actually is possible because capacity increasing your capacity is possible.

Hey, hopefully I’m not losing you here. We’re going to go back to this diagram, okay? Let’s say I, as a mom, don’t have great skills. I don’t really eat well, I don’t connect with anybody, and I just kind of thought that motherhood would take care of itself. Right? I’m going to say that this mother, or if this was me, I have a really weak capacity. I have a very small capacity; it’s a very skinny capacity, right? Because there’s not much in me to counterweight that’s going to come onto me.

So if weight comes, I may break. Right? As life happens, as a mother, as I’m sharing those burdens as a mother, I may break because there’s not much to me. If I, as a mom, start doing eight simple things — I’m going to put an eight right here — eight simple things, my capacity gets thicker or bigger or stronger or better, whatever word you want to put in there. This is the visual for it. Instead of looking like this — well, here’s me, same me, bitty skinny capacity, right? If I have a really thick capacity and I start having life as a mother, all those things we listed as life starts to pile on here.

Right? And it’s because I am yoked to those things because my capacity is thick. I actually have a pretty good buffer; it’s not going to bend much. I’m going to feel the weight in my legs, but it’s actually going to feel relatively light because my shoulders, it’s not breaking my balance. I actually can do it. And the interesting thing is, weight trainers, they bend their legs, right? They’re working their legs. But if they didn’t have the capacity, a bar to hold the weight, their legs are never going to get a workout.

So I don’t actually worry so much about the burdens that I carry. I actually worry more about my capacity to carry those burdens. The capacity is what I am working on constantly, not my ability to handle the burdens. Now, is there a difference? Is there a difference between my ability to bear the burdens and my capacity to handle the burdens? Because that sounds like the same, right? Like, “Jinger, you’re just kind of repeating yourself.” No, they’re actually not the same. They are very, very, very different, right?

The capacity, like I said, is something that increases over time or can increase over time. My ability is actually kind of going the same, like my legs, when a weight, when a squatter goes down with the bar, right? It’s legs, the muscles will change, but it’s got the same bones, it’s got the same person that doesn’t change much. It’s the muscle on him that will, over time. But again, with me, it’s going to be me with my personality, my likes, my dislikes, that’s kind of like how I come, right? And that’s my starting point, point.

And I can’t really change my starting point. What I can change is my capacity, and my capacity, as my capacity increases and the weight increases, then actually, yeah, then I grow muscles on what’s already there, but I’m not going to change who I naturally am. I’m just going to increase my ability to handle things, and then, yeah, the me inside gets bigger and better and stronger. So hopefully, it makes a little bit of sense because there is a little bit of a difference there.

Capacity, back to capacity. What are these eight things that increase my capacity? Well, I’m going to tell you eight game-changing capacity builders. Can you read that? All right, eight game-changing capacity builders. And again, if I change my — or as I increase my capacity, really, I’m not talking about balance, I’m talking about capacity. And that is something that I can adjust, that is something that I can continually work on. Okay, balance is like, “I got to get rid of this, I got to get rid of this.” Capacity is something that I just continually increase, and there’s eight things that I have found, as women do them, it increases their — they feel like their life is manageable, right? They feel like they have more, more, better balance. But really, they just are experiencing the results of an increased capacity.

So the first thing we talked about last week is a multivitamin. I cannot even tell you what a friend this can be if you have a good multivitamin. Sometimes we need iron, sometimes we need a little extra stuff, right? You got to do your research. I’m telling you that Flintstone vitamins don’t count. Do your research. Get a good multivitamin. It is really challenging to go through the ups and downs of hormonal changes and having babies in our bodies, and out of our bodies, and then connected to our bodies if we choose to nurse, right? And then emotionally on our shoulders. It is really challenging to do that without really great help, and even with really great food, my experience has been a multivitamin can be a great, great, great benefit.

So do some research there, find a great multivitamin, ask around, see what other moms are doing. You can reach out to me, you can tell me what I’m doing, or I can tell you what I’m doing. I’ve done a wide variety of things as my needs have changed. I have favorites, I have things that I did not like that did not work that ended up hurting. So, so multivitamin. I cannot even tell you how important that is. Multivitamin.

Hey, second thing, food, Mom, you need to eat. Now, there’s two categories of food and there’s two approaches to food, and I would encourage you to maybe look at food this way. Step one of food is you got to just eat. That can be really challenging in a variety of ways. You may be overwhelmed with how to make healthy meals, you may not really like food that much. I don’t really like food that much. I eat to live; I don’t live to eat. And so sometimes, that makes me not want to eat anything, because I just don’t love it. So I’m working on that as I can.

But eat, eat something. My friend was a nurse for 15 years, and she told me once that the reason why moms have a hard time losing weight when they have a baby is because they’re not eating. So just eat, eat. You need to eat, eat something. And the better you eat, the more your body is going to get the nutrition that it needs. Your body does not need candy. I’m sorry. It doesn’t need a soda, it doesn’t need just a granola bar. It needs food. It needs actual food. It needs the food pyramid. It needs that, right?

So, there’s a book out there called “How Not to Diet.” And he kind of talks about what your body actually needs and how it needs that food. And so if you can, my challenge to you, if you can do it, if you’re up for it, make your life easier by eating fruits and vegetables and protein. A lot of people think they need carbs to survive; you don’t. Your body needs sugar; it just doesn’t need added sugar. So, fruits are going to give you the sugar that your body needs. Veggies are going to give you the fiber and the nutrition that your body needs. Your body does not need carbs.

Okay, so eat something. The better you eat, the more you will give your body the nutrients it needs to operate as a female with hormonal stuff, having babies. There’s so much nutrient that gets pulled from you, and if you don’t put it back in, it’s just going to be challenging, right? You’re going to feel like you don’t have the capacity to handle stuff because you don’t. You don’t have the ability to handle things because you don’t have the nutrition in your body. And then you also just physically will feel bad. So, eat.

The second part of food, so there’s two categories of food, eat food. The second part of food is food is a buffer to life. And I had a counselor tell me this once, and he said that food is a buffer to life. You know, we’re going to have highs and we’re going to have lows, and food can kind of buffer both of those. So sometimes we go out with our kids to go do something fun, like the beach or something. We got to have some snacks, right? We got to have some sandwiches, we got to have some drinks, we got to have some snacks, we got to have some fruit. We have to have food, because if it gets stressful, which it always does, there’s always going to be a mom meltdown moment.

There’s always going to be a mom meltdown moment. And food can be a buffer to that. It can help smooth over that stress. Sometimes when you’re really busy, you just can’t eat. And you’re going to have a really hard time when life goes down if you’re hungry. So, eat. If you don’t like to eat, don’t not eat, because you need to have that buffer, okay? So there’s two parts to eating. There’s the eating to give your body the nutrients that it needs to survive and to be healthy and to have capacity.

And then there’s also the part of food as a buffer to life. I think it’s interesting how much I have just stopped eating because I just don’t love it. And I actually had a physical therapist who kind of called me out on it and said, “You’re using food to buffer the highs and lows in your life. You’re using food to buffer the highs and lows, and you need to stop.” And it was interesting that when she told me that, I kind of was like, “Yeah, you’re right.”

So I don’t do that much anymore, but food can be a buffer to life. And so if you need it, it’s there. If you’re hungry, you can grab an apple, you can grab a yogurt. You can grab a granola bar, you can grab something to eat that’s easy and convenient, that will get into your body and help it to have what it needs. So, number two, food. You need to eat. You need to make sure that you’re eating healthy. You need to make sure that you’re eating well.

And then number three, water. I know, guys, that you’re going to think I’m so boring. You’re going to be like, “Ginger, this is so boring. This is so boring.” And I’m going to tell you, you are so right, but water is a game-changer. And there’s two reasons why water is a game-changer. The first reason is because your body is made up of 80% water. So if you’re not drinking water, you’re actually not giving your body what it needs to survive and to thrive. It needs water. It needs it. It’s what it’s made of.

So if you’re not giving it what it’s made of, it’s not going to run right. It’s like if you have a car and you don’t give it gas, it’s not going to run. It’s not going to run well. If you don’t give your body water, it’s not going to run well. So, you need water. You need to drink water. And the thing about water is you can’t just drink it when you’re thirsty. It’s not like orange juice. If you’re thirsty, you should drink it. If you’re not thirsty, you don’t need to drink it. Water is something you need to drink even when you’re not thirsty.

So that’s the hard part. You’re going to feel like you’re drinking too much water, and you might be. But if you are feeling like, “Man, I’m just not doing well. I’m just feeling really stressed out,” or, “Man, I don’t have much capacity for life. I just don’t have much balance,” check how much water you’re drinking. I know it sounds so basic and so boring, but really, guys, if you’re not drinking enough water, you’re not giving your body what it needs to run right. And you’re not going to have capacity. You’re not going to have balance.

Okay, so second reason why water is a game-changer is because our body is designed to keep us alive. And so when we’re dehydrated, our body goes into survival mode, right? It goes into survival mode, and it starts to shut things down that it doesn’t need. So when we’re dehydrated, our body shuts down things that it doesn’t need. And one of the things that it does is it shuts down our ability to think clearly. It shuts down our ability to think clearly. It’s really hard to think clearly if you’re not drinking water.

So you might be feeling like you’re not doing well, but it actually might just be because you’re dehydrated. You might just be dehydrated. So, you might be really thirsty, you might just be dehydrated. So, you need to drink water. You need to drink water even when you don’t want to, you need to drink water even when you’re not thirsty. I know it sounds so basic, but it’s so true. You need to drink water even when you don’t want to, you need to drink water even when you’re not thirsty.

Okay, so those are the three things that I’m going to talk about. If you’re just jumping on, we’re talking about life balance. And there’s three things that you need to be doing in order to have life balance, because the world is coming at you all the time, right? You’ve got family, you’ve got work, you’ve got kids, you’ve got friends, you’ve got extended family, you’ve got the grocery store, you’ve got the school, you’ve got the kids’ friends, you’ve got the sports, you’ve got the job, you’ve got the finances. You’ve got so many things coming at you all the time. And if you don’t have these three things in place, it’s going to be really hard for you to keep all of that balanced, okay?

So, number one is sleep. Number two is food. Number three is water. So, number one, sleep. Number two, food. Number three, water. And I know that I’m saying these like, “Just do them. Just do them. It’s going to be great. Just do them,” and you might be like, “Yeah, no. It’s not that simple.” And I’m going to tell you that it actually is that simple. You need to sleep. You need to eat. You need to drink water. You need to make it a priority. You need to make it a priority.

And so, that is the challenge that I’m giving you today, is to prioritize those three things in your life. Because I promise you, if you can prioritize those three things in your life, it’s going to help you so much to be able to handle the things that are going to come at you, because things are going to come at you. I’m sorry, but that’s just life. Life is going to come at you. And if you don’t have those three things in place, it’s going to be really hard for you to handle it.

So, I’m giving you the challenge today to go out and prioritize those three things. So, that’s what I’m talking about today, life balance. And I hope that this has been helpful for you. I hope that it’s been helpful for you. I hope that it’s been helpful for you. And I hope that it’s been helpful for you. So, if you have any questions, I’m going to open it up for a Q&A. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me. And I will answer them to the best of my ability. So, if you have any questions, feel free to ask me. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me. And I’ll do my best to answer them. So, if you have any questions, feel free to ask me.

Alright, Ginger, thank you for sharing those insights and tips on life balance. I’m sure our viewers appreciate it. If anyone has any questions for Ginger, feel free to type them in, and we’ll do our best to address them. While we wait for questions to come in, I’d like to remind everyone that Ginger is a life coach, and she’s here to provide guidance on various aspects of life. So, if you have questions related to life balance, wellness, or any other relevant topics, feel free to ask.

Alright, we’ve got our first question here. Ginger, someone is asking, “How can I improve my sleep routine? I often find it hard to fall asleep at night.”

That’s a great question. So, improving your sleep routine is really important. One thing that you can do to improve your sleep routine is to create a consistent bedtime and wake-up time. Our bodies have a natural circadian rhythm, and when we stick to a regular sleep schedule, it helps regulate that rhythm, making it easier to fall asleep and wake up. So, try to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on weekends.

Another tip is to create a relaxing bedtime routine. This could include activities such as reading a book, taking a warm bath, or practicing some gentle stretching or relaxation exercises. The idea is to wind down and signal to your body that it’s time to sleep.

Limiting screen time before bed is also crucial. The blue light emitted by phones, tablets, and computers can interfere with the production of the sleep hormone melatonin. Try to avoid screens at least an hour before bedtime.

Lastly, make sure your sleep environment is conducive to rest. Keep your bedroom cool, dark, and quiet. Invest in a comfortable mattress and pillows.

These are just a few tips to get you started, and it might take some time to adjust, but creating a consistent sleep routine can significantly improve the quality of your sleep.

If you have any more questions or if there’s anything specific you’d like to know about improving your sleep routine, feel free to ask!

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