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Hey everyone, welcome to Date Night with Brit and Ginger. We're thrilled to have you here, and we appreciate you joining us. We've been looking forward to this for quite some time—dare I say, decades. We're genuinely excited to jump in and share with you.

Allow me to provide a brief introduction for those who may not know us. I'm Brit, and I'm Ginger. One of the reasons we wanted to do this is that it ties our backgrounds together. I hold a bachelor's degree in home and family living, and I'm a full-time homemaker. Our intentional decision to have six children has been a central part of our lives. I'm passionate about marriage, family, and passing on positive family patterns.

On the other hand, Brit has an MBA and a background in business, having been involved in various business deals and startups over the last 20 years. Despite wanting to be a dad from a young age, he realized that there was more to learn about being a husband and father. Combining my degree in home and family living with his business expertise, we established Powerhouse—a company he started a couple of years ago.

Powerhouse focuses on business consulting, direct sales, and coaching couples. We have a shared interest in coaching couples, stemming from our experiences since our honeymoon days. Additionally, I run PowerUpYourHouse.com, where I mentor and coach moms. This initiative arose from the need for a website to reach and assist more moms.

While our lives are quite busy—juggling parenting six children, managing businesses, and mentoring moms—we found that our unique experiences and insights make us well-suited to share advice. Our purpose with Date Night with Brit and Ginger is to put each other on the spot, share our lessons and tips, and ultimately help couples connect and protect.

Throughout our marriage, we were fortunate to develop a close friendship before tying the knot. We knew each other for years, building a strong foundation. However, we soon realized that marriage comes with its own set of challenges and stresses. In our journey, we always harked back to our friendship, learning from our experiences, and wishing we had someone to guide us. Now, we want to share our insights with you, with the hope that you can learn and grow from them.

Tonight, we want to focus on navigating struggles in marriage. Life brings challenges, and facing them head-on is crucial for growth. Avoiding or ignoring struggles might be tempting, but true growth happens when you embrace and learn from them. We'll delve into the importance of turning struggles into learning experiences and how it can strengthen your relationship. Stay tuned for more, and we'll even have a homework assignment for you to apply these principles in your own lives.

You learn a lot about the heart of a person when you're willing to do that. So, we're going to give you a little tool, the first tip we'd give any couple if we had just one night. It's about helping yourselves through the struggle, learning together, and providing lubricant to the learning process. The goal is to have a thriving relationship where you tackle struggles together, grow together, and witness growth in your home and finances. Problem-solving becomes a key, and eventually, you get to experience bliss not as a fleeting phase but as something richer—rooted in real knowledge and connection.

This tip, or skill as I call it, took us years to figure out and master. Early in our marriage, I struggled with handling challenges. I would get phobic and question the whole idea of being together. My husband, on the other hand, had a better grasp of navigating through struggles. We realized that to overcome challenges, we needed to keep the good things at the forefront of our minds.

Especially with three kids in three years, our busy lives led to a temporary loss of connection. We had to remind ourselves of the bliss we had before having children and how we chose to be together. This exercise became crucial for maintaining our bond.

The assignment for tonight is to take a piece of paper and write down either:

  1. What you like about your spouse (1 to 10 things). OR
  2. What you have liked about your spouse in the past (1 to 20 things).

Rule #1: Do not write anything negative or turn positives into negatives. The goal is to keep both positive and negative aspects on the table for clarity.

Rule #2: If you're doing this by yourself, be prepared for potential skepticism or resistance from your spouse. Sometimes rekindling love can be met with suspicion, but it's a powerful exercise.

We shared an analogy about a candle and its flame, symbolizing a relationship and love. Relighting the candle represents rekindling love, and it takes practice to do it swiftly. The more you practice, the faster you can reconnect and feel warmth.

The ultimate aim is to help couples have a powerhouse marriage, leveraging the combined intelligence and strengths of both partners. Every second and fourth Friday, we'll be sharing tips and techniques to enhance your relationship. If you miss any sessions, you can find the archives at PowerUpYourHouse.com.

Feel free to email us at jinger@powerupyourhouse.com for questions or comments. Remember, marriage is worth the effort, and with a little power-up, you can navigate challenges successfully. Now, go write your list, and we'll see you in two weeks! Bye!


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